What is a BoyLover?

What is a BoyLover?

Some pedophiles feel that the use of the word "paedophile" has come into disrepute. They believe it is a negative term almost automatically associated with rape and other forms of violence. Hence, in the last few years, the term "boy lovers" has come into use and mainly through its frequency on Internet. It has precisely the same root meaning as "paedophile", that is persons who love young boys, preferably prepubescent, or less than 14 years old.

Boylovers have associated themselves into various groups and organizations and believe in the right to express sexuality at any age, as this is the basis for child-adult sexual relationship. For these people, use of violence, coercion or aggression would depict a child molester *, not a boylover.

Boylovers are the most prevalent of paedophiles. Some experience boys in a nudist environment while others want the boys to be clothed to some degree. All boylovers profess a strong desire to be around boys but few admit to wanting sexual contact.

Despite their benign view of themselves, whether "paedophile" or "boylover", there are many exceptions to their belief which results in the real sexual abuse of children.


* Child molester: or a "pedosexual", a non-existent term made up by pedophiles activists as part of their ongoing effort to legitimize and legalize the sexual exploitation of children.


What is a Girl Lover?

Girl lovers are paedophiles who have a sexual attraction for pubescent or prepubescent girls.

They are rarer than boylovers and, so far, less organized.

Why do paedophiles like to work on the internet?

Up to a few years ago, most paedophiles were isolated, they kept to themselves because they were not accepted by communities or otherwise marginalized. The Internet now makes it possible for paedophiles to contact each other and to create transnational networks of adults with a sexual interest in children and structured, socially well organized group dynamics on-line. This gives birth to virtual spaces where paedophiles try to legitimize and normalize their way of life.
In this way, paedophiles are no longer isolated, they can feel that they are part of the larger community. Ironically, they can 'hide in the open'. They can avoid exposing their identity in transactions with other paedophiles and can easily communicate with each other. Anonymity, convenience and this ease of dissemination and collection explain the expanding use of the Internet by paedophiles.

If these sites are so protected and so few, why should we be afraid for our children?

There are good reasons to be afraid because there are many other sites which are not illegal but are nonetheless corrosive of cultural values and ethical norms. Some 23,000 paedophile sites or links to related sites provide essays, literary stories, news, personal viewpoints about issues of concern to paedophiles and boy lovers, photo galleries of young persons or children, usually attractive boys. Sometimes the young persons so depicted are not the victims of paedophiles, but simply normal young children or boys who are nonetheless 'attractive' to paedophiles. Some of these may display children who are naked (not illegal per se) but in an alluring form. Often their position or their gestures will make them 'sexually attractive' to potential sex molestors.
The issue is that most of these sites are not illegal, but as a result, young children who fall on these sites are exposed to philosophical beliefs of paedophiles who seek to justify child-adult sexual relations, various forms of deviant sexual behaviour, and maintain that anyone should have the right to sexual relations with anyone, regardless of age. This is potentially more destructive than happening upon a few nude photos.

Social harm of organized paedophile sites
Boylovers - as well as girllovers - have been strongly seeking confirmation from each other, and getting it. They have set up several web sites with online chat forums. Through the medium of Internet networks they create a global community in which they receive support and confirmation of the "legitimacy" of their feelings. The general feeling among them has become that they have some special understanding of children that straight, non-pedophiles do not have. They feel it only right that they offer those needy, neglected boys the benefit of their love and affection.
A great deal of this is self-deception. Much of their desire to "help children" is fraudulent. They often mistake sexual attraction for love, and they frequently deceive themselves about the harm they are doing.

Individually harmful actions of boylovers
Pedophilia is a psychological condition that does not necessitate action. Some boylovers are people society would consider decent human beings, people who truly do not wish to harm children and try to avoid situations that may lead to sexual contact. These individuals do not represent much threat to children. (There is, of course, the danger that they may have a "moment of weakness," or under this newly cultivated group-think, they may act in ways that harm children, yet believe they are doing the child benefit.)
Many other boylovers, however, make little attempt to rationalize their motivation for becoming involved with children. They are not inhibited by the possibility that they may harm children psychologically or even physically.
Some groups actually post on their web pages instructions on how to join for-children organizations like Big Brothers, Big Sisters, etc., and encourage boylovers to do so. Even more shocking, some also provide encouragement and instructions on how to adopt underprivileged boys, often from third world nations.
With the increasing amount of detrimental information being made available on boylove and other "child love" sites, we now think it prudent that the public, most especially the child organizations, be more aware that some of these boylove groups are now operating in an organized manner to help pedophiles join and infiltrate child organizations.
Of course, not all of the pedophiles who join for-children organizations will have sexual contact with the children, but the danger is very real, and it does occur. That some are prepared to adopt to satisfy their sexual desires is alarming. It seems unlikely that pedophiles would follow adoption directions on a boylove site and then not interact sexually with the child.
We have found links from some boylove sites to child organization databases, databases displaying the children's full names and personal information, including their schools. This could easily give child predators "a way in," especially when the data details each child's interests and aspirations, as it did in one case. Whether this was the intention of the boylove site designers is unclear, but the effect is the same. Some of the people who visit boylove sites and view boylove information are very dangerous to children. Boylove literature has been found on the persons of arrested sex offenders.

Media coverage
It is better for the welfare of children that these groups do not operate out of the public eye. Yet we hope media coverage will not be of a purely sensationalistic nature that merely serves to advertise for the boylove groups. Journalists may wish to consider combining coverage of the boylove sites with information from child organization officials who successfully screen out many of these perpetrators and can give you an idea of how prolific infiltration might be. Also, journalists might talk to psychologists about the condition of pedophilia, and in their coverage, focus on the self-deception aspect, exposing it for what it is. The group-think psychological condition and its negative effects is very well documented. Any academic psychologist should be able to speak to it and direct members of the media to research more specific to pedophilia.